Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Dad: A Celebration


Charles Champlin, 1926–2014

This past weekend in Los Angeles, we celebrated the life of my dad, former Los Angeles Times arts editor and film critic Charles Champlin, at the Directors Guild Theater. Dad died in November, after a nearly decade-long struggle with Alzheimer's, throughout which he remained his kind, good-humored, gentlemanly self. Macular degeneration had already robbed this writer, reader, and film lover of his eyesight, a cruelty that he managed with unfathomable grace—and by writing about it, in his book, My Friend, You Are Legally Blind. Dad's legacy, in addition to his storied career and his prolific and elegant writing, includes a 66-year marriage to our miraculous mom, six children, 13 grandchildren, and seven great-grandchildren. As 30+ family members gathered for Thanksgiving dinners, Dad liked to say to Mom, "Peg, what have we wrought?!" You wrought good, Dad. These are the remarks I wrote for his memorial service: 

Most mornings when I was little, I woke to the sound of machine-gun fire. That would be Dad, typing furiously on his IBM Selectric as he wrote his review of the film he’d seen the night before. Within the hour, he’d be showered, dressed, dictating the piece into the kitchen telephone, then following the review down to the L.A. Times in his Triumph TR-250.

If ever a child had a role model for just plain getting the job done, with style and without whining, it was Dad.

And if there was ever an example of both a writer’s art and a writer’s craft, it was Dad. He was the Fred Astaire of writers: With the hard work and blisters kept out of sight, he made it look effortless.

Having a film critic for a father has obvious benefits—like impressing your high school friends in 1977 by seeing Star Wars two weeks before its release, or getting to go with Dad to the Academy Awards as he took each of us kids, democratically, in turn.

Having a writer for a father has other benefits—less obvious, maybe, but deeper and longer-lasting.

Learning the skill of thoughtful observation, for example, so that you see not just who or what is right in front of you, but what’s around the edges and what’s underneath. Dad had a particular gift for that—whether it was understanding a filmmaker’s intentions and not just their final, perhaps studio-edited product; or whether it was listening to one of his many children or grandchildren and getting straight to the heart of what was on their mind, and not just in their fumbling words.

That skill of listening and seeing between the lines was one he learned early, in his hometown of Hammondsport, New York, population 1200. In his book, Back There Where the Past Was, Dad wrote:

“My maiden great-aunts, my grandmother Masson, and my mother…had what I remember now as semaphore eyebrows, a secret communications system for dealing with things my brother and I were not supposed to hear or know about.

“ ‘How is dear Fannie Cameron?’ one of the aunts might ask my grandmother.

“ ‘Much the same,’ my grandmother would reply, with a theatrically eloquent lift of her eyebrows. Even then I understood that, Mrs. Cameron being in excellent health, the import of the eyebrowing was that Mr. Cameron…was either drinking again or philandering again or both. I knew this from listening a lot to grown-up conversations when I was not thought to be listening. Even then I may have been aiming for a career in journalism without knowing it.”

Of course, the other great benefit of having a writer-dad was being given, on a daily basis, the gift of language. Dad loved words. He loved the infinite variety of them, and the Play-Doh quality of them. Puns may be the lowest form of humor, but they were in high demand around the Champlin dinner table. In his writing and even in his casual conversation, Dad illustrated for us not just the power of words, but the acute power of the un-obvious word, the unexpected phrase.

In his review of Mel Brooks’s Blazing Saddles, Dad wrote: 
“[This] mock-down, knock-down, bawdy, gaudy, hyper-hip burlesque western is irreverent, outrageous, improbable, often as blithely tasteless as a stag night at the Friar’s Club and almost continuously funny…It is to Zane Grey as Little Annie Fanny is to Daddy Warbucks’ wide-eyed ward.”

Of Robert Altman’s Nashville, he wrote: “…Altman abhors a vacuous screen, and he can make almost anything interesting on it…[H]is instincts for that existential half world between security and failure are sure, accurate and special, and he is never dull.”

I would say the same for Dad.

Even when macular degeneration left him legally blind and Alzheimer’s gummed up the works, he never lost his true vision, or his gift for the unexpected insight.

One day, when I made the unfortunate choice to wear blue jeans and a denim jacket, Dad looked at me through his peripheral vision and said, “You’re looking very agrarian today, Susan.”

But the most remarkable gift of all about Dad is that through everything—in his personal life and his professional life, on television or in the grocery store, in blazing health and while enduring insidious disease—Dad was a gentleman. He was, right down at his core, a fundamentally kind and generous human being. He was a small-town boy who maintained his small-town decency and manners, even in a much bigger town that didn’t often honor those things.

As our Dad and grandfather, and as a husband to our mighty Mom, he was gentle, proud, generous, a wise and encouraging counselor, wonderfully silly, and an excellent cook—as long as your tastes ran to beer bread and frozen peas. He was also deeply loving. In his later years, when certain phrases began to be repeated with regularity, the phrase we heard most often, as his hand crept across the dinner table toward Mom’s hand, was, “Have I ever told you I love you?”

We’re especially lucky in our family to have had a writer for a father, because we have his stories. First we had them over family dinners, where all heads would be angled toward the west, where Dad sat at the head of the table and told us the stories of Hammondsport and Smellie’s Drugstore and the office he shared with David Snell at Life magazine, which Dave had named the “Hotel Plunge” after the phrase made famous by tabloid newspapers—as in “Sailor Dies in Hotel Plunge,” “Tourist Dies in Hotel Plunge.” And, of course, there was the story we loved best: the family legend of how Dad met Mom.

But we Champlin kids are luckier than most, because now we have those stories in his books, which his great- and great-great-grandchildren can read when they come to that point in their lives when they realize what they’ve lost—and also what they gained, what we all gained, on that day in 1946 when Charles Champlin arrived at the Hammondsport library to pick up his grandmother and met a beautiful young brunette named Peggy Derby.

I know I have told you Dad, but I’d like to tell you again: I love you.

17 comments:

Michele Hush said...

This is absolutely beautiful and note-perfect, Susan. What a wonderful tribute to your dad.

LPC said...

<3<3<3

Carrie Rickey said...

This is lovely, Susan. Semaphore eyebrows!

Holly Friesen said...

What a beautiful tribute Susan, your dad sounds like a most remarkable human being.

ettagirl said...

So lovely. xo

Susan Champlin said...

@Michele, @LPC, @ettagirl: Thank you all so much. xo

@Carrie: One of the best parts of this exercise was poring through Dad's books again and finding jewels like that. Thank you. And thank you for your own beautiful words about my dad.

@Holly: Thank you so much. He was a great writer and critic, but a remarkable human being most of all.

Lesley said...

Clearly you are your father's daughter. A beautiful tribute when I first heard it last week and reading it now. I'm filing it in my special folder.
And I was delighted that you included the Hotel Plunge - that story always makes me laugh out loud! xoxo

Susan Champlin said...

Thank you, Lesley. And I love the Hotel Plunge story, too! It's been one of my favorites forever. Don't you wish you could have been in that office with Dad and David Snell? Good lord, what a time that must have been.

Shelf Appeal said...

Ah. This made me happy and sad. About missing my Dad, too.

Susan Champlin said...

@Shelf Appeal: Thank you—there's definitely a shared experience in missing a dad. xo

Janet said...

In 30 quick minutes at college graduation your dad and mine became friends. That meant the world to me because my dad was a genuine person who could enjoy anybody and loved a good story. Of course, that also meant your dad was the same. We were lucky. I know he will be missed and all I can say is, thank goodness that he mattered so much.

Unknown said...

So beautiful, Susan. Thank you for sharing. You are a gentle soul and a graceful writer, a living tribute to your Dad.

Susan Champlin said...

@Janet: That is so moving to me—thank you for that. You're so right: We were lucky.

@Kathy: (You're not Unknown to me!) Thank you for that lovely comment. It means so much to me.

John said...

Nicely done and clearly deserving.

Susan Champlin said...

Thank you so much, @John.

Unknown said...

Stumbled upon this little gem and enjoyed every bit!

Susan Champlin said...

Thank you, @Benjamin Dale -- I appreciate that very much.